Guides
Everything you need to start tonight.
One card counts. Pick the version that works for tonight and begin wherever your energy is.
How to play
- Check your energy. Tired? Draw a 5-Minute Spark. A little left in the tank? Draw a 15-Minute Couch Talk. A free evening? Pick an At-Home Date.
- Draw one card. Read it out loud. Answer it or do it.
- That’s it. One card counts as a full night. Draw another only if you both want to.
The house rules
- Phones down. Printed cards? Both phones go face down in another room. Playing on a screen? One phone holds the deck; the other goes away.
- No logistics. Mention daycare, dishes, schedules, or the pediatrician and you owe your partner a two-minute back rub.
- You drew it, you do it. A card only goes back if you both agree.
Using the digital version
- Download the PDF from your order email or account page.
- Open it in any PDF app: Apple Books or Files on iPhone and iPad, Google Drive or Adobe Acrobat on Android.
- Tap a section on the menu, then tap any face-down card to draw it.
- Tap Draw again for another card, or Menu to switch modes.
No app to install, no account, no internet needed once it’s downloaded.
Printing at home
- Use matte cardstock, 65–110 lb (176–300 gsm).
- Print double-sided, flipping on the long edge.
- Set the scale to 100% or “Actual size,” never “Fit to page,” so fronts and backs line up.
- No double-sided printer? Print the odd pages, reload the stack, then print the even pages. Test one sheet first.
- Cut along the crop marks. A paper trimmer is fastest; a corner-rounding punch is a nice finishing touch.
The weekly reset and trade tokens
For Still Standing
- Pick one night a week and set aside ten minutes together.
- Run the four reset cards in order: Thank You, Look Ahead, The Swap, Seal It.
- Draw one or two prompt cards to get the conversation going.
- When you need a break, screenshot a trade token and text it to your partner. Two tokens each per month keeps them worth sending.
